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It's time to quit aimlessly trolling through pastures.3. Nothing wrong with being coy and hard to get, until you can't get a guy for more than a 15 minute blow 'n' go. Here's a few more reasons why the problem with gay men is themselves: you came out.
Word does get around, and if you keep crying wolf and don't follow through with something more substantial, guys will take flight. Why go back into another closet, pretending you are the perfect gay man, just to fit in?
It's time to put the landing gear down and give guys, in all environments, more of a chance. Commitment is one of the toughest human traits to master. And with that, I will now remove my Sassy Diva heels and slip into another comfortable side of me—the real me: a gay man used to seeing himself in the mirror without flinching.
There must be some truth to the old joke: “What does a gay man bring on a second date? ” You would be ready to throw in the towel, if it weren’t for your best friend who met someone and is now in a happy relationship for the past 2 years—or that middle-aged couple who live in your building and who just celebrated 25 years together with a trip to Paris.
This toxic internalized belief is further ingrained if we have been treated harshly (or abandoned) by our fathers, the first men in our lives to teach us about our value in the eyes of other males.
Sadly, these wounds are difficult to heal, and as a result, can leave gay men with the sense that we are unlovable and thus unworthy of love, affection, and happiness.
once you fix your attitude (and realize YOU are the problem). Buckle up, because it's about to get bumpy, and not in a fun way. Ironcially, the more we focus on how much life sucks, the more we tend to numb that negative sucking with pleasurable sucking, the outfall of which often leads to our life sucking even more.
I'm slipping on my Sassy Diva heels to dole out some tough love. Because I'm tired of hearing gay men talk about how unhappy they are. (I'll give you a minute to let that one sink in.)The point is—we back ourselves into the life suck's corner and think we can't get out. If we dropped the endless pursuit of seeking fabulousness, the sexual talents of a porn star, and dashing good looks that require gruelling gym regimes, who might we become?