Standing up to intimidating people
I would hide my opinions, unless asked to speak—even then, I would be very choiceful about what I said and how I said it. I would stay away from talking about myself or anything that would remotely suggest I was capable or in a place of power. Some would try to put me down and rebut whatever I say. That perhaps, it was just not in my destiny to be with someone in this lifetime, and I could only wish for that in my next life.It got to the point where I felt that I was turning into a brainless, empty—and if I may say so myself—a pretty-face shell. There was this guy I met last year who became highly antagonistic towards me after just three minutes of conversation, even though I was being nothing but amicable. It took a while, but I finally found the answer to my heart’s dilemma.Yet another reason could be my presence, which is apparently quite strong. When I asked him how he did that, he said my aura was so strong that it outshone all the people at the locale (probably a hundred at least? All he had to do was simply close his eyes and “follow the light”. so that I would not intimidate guys anymore, or at the very least, not intimidate guys so much that they wouldn’t want to woo me.Often times, people could sense my presence right when I walk into a room (even in MRTs) and look up from their resting state. when I was already dumbing myself down / shirking my character was perplexing. However, while I was chatting with Rita, I asked her if there was a possibility that some guys would be afraid to woo me because they didn’t want to hurt me, say due to my longstanding singlehood.I then turned my passion into a full-fledged business (Personal Excellence) which now earns me more than my previous job in P&G today, with 95% of my income being passive income.Today, I write at PE to a half-a-million readership every month. Some friends have gone as far as to tell me that I’m the smartest / most capable person they’ve ever met, which I think is the biggest compliment anyone can ever receive.
(I was in Hong Kong then for a business trip.) While my friend Fenix was getting ready to text me and check where I was, Kev simply told him, “No need. But for you Jie, I think it’s more of a case that guys are afraid you would hurt them.” While my immediate reaction was to burst out laughing because the thought of that happening sounded so ludicrous, I immediately stopped to think right after.
While I am totally okay and at peace with being a single (I would rather be single than be with someone whom I don’t like), I don’t want to end up as that archetype if I can have my way. Deep down, I thought there was something wrong with me as a woman.
I don’t want to have a life where I have no one to call my own. Where others have no problems landing the relationship of their dreams, I seem unable to do so.
Depending on how things go, I’m possibly going on another long trip this year, scouring places like India, South Africa, and South America.
You can say that these “accomplishments” are atypical of an average person, much less a girl from Singapore.